34+ Years Apart
Today is Heidi's due date. I'm reading my old journal entries to remember what it was like for me, the day Heidi was born. Maybe I can give her some insight.
It's not very helpful, because my birth was a planned C-section. I never felt one labor pain. I can't give Heidi advice about what to expect.
Masks During Delivery
I can't give advice about labor and I can't give advice about what deliveries are like these days. It's been over 34 years. I also have no clue what deliveries are like during a pandemic, except for what Heidi already knows. She and Jamie will be expected to wear masks during labor. No visitors allowed at the hospital.
Don wore a mask, when he held Heidi for the first time. That was because we were in an operating room. I do remember looking at all the masked faces that were involved with my delivery. Suddenly Don carried Heidi to me. I didn't have to wear a mask and I was allowed to kiss that sweet little girl's face. I felt like Royalty, surrounded by servants!
My Thoughts in 1986
My journal makes it pretty clear that my hormones were at work. Happy tears hit before I laid eyes on my new baby. The epidural made my teeth chatter (I thought it was nerves) and my giddy-swirling head made me confused when Dr. Rick announced, "It's a beautiful little lady!" I needed someone to clarify. "What does that mean?" "It's a little Heidi." Don explained.
Every birth and every mom is different. All I can share is what I experienced.
Heidi, if you're like me...
You will be overwhelmed with good emotions... happy tears maybe.
You'll see your daughter and remind yourself over and over, "She's ours!" You'll see Jamie with new eyes and realize you are now on a team and you share something wonderful! Your lives will never be the same.
You'll see a deflated stomach and think, "How is it possible that you were there and now you're in my arms?"
You'll be frustrated with breastfeeding and wonder why everyone told you it was so great.
You'll feel incredibly protective and maybe have a hard time sharing.
You'll wonder how it's possible that so many billions of women could have possibly done the special thing that you just did. Give birth!
1986 and 1957
It's been decades since I gave birth, so how can I give advice? Things have changed so much in 34 years. No bumper pads in cribs now, No putting babies to sleep on their tummies. How different was it for my mom, nearly 64 years ago?
But I look at these photos of Heidi and me and I think "babies are babies" and that never changes. I hope Baby Girl Hurst has fewer chins than me. I hope she has Heidi's and Jamie's blond hair!
Most of all, I hope Heidi and Jamie enjoy every moment and every stage that's ahead. They've made it through a pandemic pregnancy and there should be bonus rewards for that! A good sleeper would be nice, but a healthy baby is really enough for right now. I can't wait!
I started this complaining list/blog, in May 2016. I posted 200 gripes about my breast cancer and then I was done.
On March 13, 2020, I started venting all over again, when another disease (starting with a C) interfered with my life. Only this time, it was affecting more than me. I ranted for a year, until I got my vaccine in March 2021.
Coronary Artery Disease was the reason I restarted this blog on September 26, 2021. This time it was Don who was dealing with a worry that started with the letter "C".
Coronavirus and Cancer, Coronary Artery Disease! All are evil, but none can totally get me down... if I vent! I usually end up feeling a little more positive at the end of each post!