So I braved it and left the wig box in the car. I headed into the hotel to wait. Diane didn't have a hard time recognizing me. We gabbed for 5 hours and we could have gone on for 5 more.

We Played...

Before we even had a drink, we explored and laughed our way all over the historic hotel. It felt like we were back in Iowa, acting up.  But at least back when we did our kid pranks, we were smart enough to hide behind our disguises. I wish I had a photo of us back in the day with our plastic mustache & glasses combo. 

Heading Home

I drove home to Houston that night, thinking about our shared memories, living next door as kids.  I thought over what we learned about each other as we talked about our lives since 1966. And I even thought about the great internet, that reconnected us 10 years ago and has allowed us to keep in touch.

What I didn't think about... was my hair or my wig! 

Suddenly this past week, I started giving myself a choice about leaving the house with my head uncovered. Numerous times this week, I grabbed the wig and stewed over my choice, before returning it to Betty-Lou, the wig stand.

I'll admit, I feel naked and vulnerable, stepping out into the world with my salt-n-pepper-shorter-than-a-crew-cut hair. It's not even in a style yet.  I can't comb it or part it.  But I was having a bold week...

An Important Week

It started on Monday, MLK day. I volunteered with the kids at the Women's Shelter.  While talking about being different, I took off my scarf and showed the kids my funny hair. Their honest reactions were amusing!
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​Seeing Friends

On Wednesday, I walked across the street to visit my neighbor before she headed back to Africa for the next 5 months. I wore my scarf, but ended up whipping it off to show her my head.  Becky's reaction gave me another huge boost. We said good-bye with big hugs and promises to get together when she returned. My hair will be so much longer then!

Book Club

My book club of 15+ years has been a big support throughout all these months, so on Thursday I figured I'd leave the head coverings at home.  More hugs and whoops and encouragement.  Jill no longer has the shortest hair. Lorrie said I looked French!  That was good enough for me!

The Women's March

On Saturday, I made a last minute decision to join the Women's March in downtown Houston.  There wasn't time to make a sign or worry over wig choices.  But the crowd of over 23,000 was welcoming of all kinds of hair, hats, clothing, skin color...  
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I didn't plan on stepping out wig-less so soon, but it turned out to be a good week for it!  The wig and scarves are not in total retirement, but I'm gaining confidence!

I'm used to dreading dental appointments, because I'm the Plaque Queen.  No matter how well I brush and floss, my poor hygienist gets a workout. But for some reason I almost looked forward to my appointment a few days ago.

Remembering My Last Appointment

But on Wednesday, I sat in that reclining chair and enjoyed telling Nancy that I was done with chemo and radiation. I lifted my wig and showed her my hair. I bragged that I'd been flossing really well. I asked if I could hum along, when the vibrating massage chair made my voice funny. And I had to show Nancy my comical cell phone pics of Don cutting my hair so many months ago.

This time it wasn't the plaque that slowed down the appointment, but our giddy chatter! 
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When I got home I looked at my dental goodie-bag and laughed to see the Crayola toothbrush! Was that a mistake? Maybe I was acting so goofy that Nancy forgot I wasn't a kid. Yay!  I'm ready to put that green crayon to use! 

I didn't expect to be sharing a gripe so soon.  After all, I'm spending time in a serene desert setting in west Texas. But after 7 months of "feeling the love" from caring friends and strangers, my people encounter yesterday was a blow. I may never be able to truly understand what it feels like to be hated for the color of my skin or my sexual orientation, but I had a tiny taste of hate.

The Place

yI drove up to Terlingua to catch the sunrise yesterday, after I dropped Don off at his class. I parked his new, obnoxiously shiny Toyota truck at the edge of the empty, gravel parking lot. I snapped a couple pictures of the sun rising, but the photos weren't worth my effort. I turned instead, to take a picture of Terlingua's main focus, the Starlight Lounge, where Don and I had eaten the night before.  

A Cast of Characters

Don and I love the people we've met in past years at the restuarant/bar. Even the loner locals at the bar are willing to tell their stories if given a chance.   As I snapped a photo of the building that had once entertained miners with movies, a white work truck suddenly pulled up, perpendicular to my Toyota. A man in dusty work clothes climbed out. He glared at my vehicle as he pulled some kind of hose out of the truck bed. I smiled, then shrugged at his non-greeting and strolled up the dirt road towards the old church. I was up the road a bit before I heard the man's angry voice. I turned to see who he was yelling at and realized it was me.

"MOVE THE TRUCK!" He sounded enraged. "I'm sorry..." I called down, in a confused tone that seemed to anger him all the more. As I moved towards him he continued waving his arms at my truck, which suddenly looked totally out of place. It looked like it was posing for a Toyota Tundra commercial.  I couldn't understand all he said, but the f-word came out loud and clear, about 5 times.  I attempted to apologize for parking in the wrong place. "I didn't realize..."  but he cut me off.  "Just move the F-ing truck!" Then he snarled again. "You're probably from Dallas!" 

Cars of Terlingua

I turned towards my truck and noticed a young man, holding a steaming cup of coffee,  moving towards a rusty jeep. The young guy looked sympathetic and pointed to the area where I should park. I reparked and hopped out and started jabbering. "How did I make him so mad?  I'll bet he wouldn't have yelled at me if I'd been driving my old car..." The  "drifter" who'd come to Terlingua 3 months ago, reassured me and allowed me to vent. Then he shared his own stories for a while. He sat in the jeep as he talked and reminded me of James Dean as he mumbled boyishly, and fumbled with the steering wheel.  It wasn't exactly the movie Giant, but the whole morning felt like a movie scene.​

I thanked the young man, but refused to let the evil guy run me out of town. I lingered a while at the old miner's cemetery and I wandered back up to the church. But in truth, the old man did have the power to alter my mood. All day I replayed that scene in my mind. I'm not used to being yelled at. I'm not used to being judged so quickly by the vehicle I drive or the clothes I wear. I'm not used to anger aimed at me. But that's really not what bugged me the most. I spent a day wondering what it was like to be discriminated against, daily. My tiny story is nothing. There are people who face hatred for no good reason every day of their lives. There are people who don't feel comfortable traveling the country like Don and me, blending in most of the time because we are a heterosexual couple with white skin. 
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This Morning

This morning I woke and returned to the ghost town at the same time. I sat in the big brown truck waiting in the gravel lot for him to do his routine chores.  I was going to greet him and give him a chance to show he wasn't the crabby old man I assumed he was. I was going to ask him if he liked barbecue and give him 20-bucks for the great BBQ joint down the road.  But I didn't get the chance.  I saw his truck heading up my way and I'm sure he saw mine, sitting alone on the lot.  But he paused and turned another way. ​

Closure

I was mad. I headed back towards the casita, ready for a shower and breakfast. But I passed some horse stables and my brown truck just pulled in. I needed to "move on" and my 2 hour ride with Alejandro was just the ticket. We laughed and carried on and I tipped my kind guide the twenty I had in my pocket for the evil man. "Go enjoy some BBQ!" I laughed, as I left.

My horse and guide gave me the boost I needed. I will forget the grouch and remember all the good people I've met in this area over the years. Ready to move on!

Today is New Year's Day and we have left our decorations and a little bit of clutter, for 10 days. We're on a road trip once again.  This is what Don and I love, meandering and exploring!  We'll have time in Big Bend National Park, where Don takes a class every 2 years, and I explore and relax on my own. ( I doubt we'll see snow this year) I can think of no better way to say good-bye to 2016, than driving away from it! We'll head off towards the most beautiful part of Texas and start fresh with a new year! 

My real venting is done.  I hope I won't need to post many gripes in 2017. But I'll have to at least document my hair growth and a few other things.  All in all, my journey hasn't been bad and I know this blog has helped!